Redefining Words: Easy
The word “easy” has become – somehow the ultimate goal for everything. Maybe not on purpose – but it’s a default setting we look for with everything, regardless of what it is. Easy – according to the dictionary, means:• Achieved without effort.• Uncomplicated, undemanding, unchallenging. There are easy dinners, workouts, easy as 1, 2, 3, […]
Redefining Words: Should
I believe the word should is code for people-pleasing. I’m not talking about “I should take out the trash,” I’m talking about well-meaning people shoulding on you.You should — 21 years ago, I was starting Menu-Mailer (in a couple of years, it would change into Saving Dinner), and I wasstruggling with a number of things […]
Have You Forgotten Who You Are?
This is classic autopilot living. Saying no, when you really mean yes. Saying yes and regretting it. Feeling like your life is just meh, and everyone else is living a life you wish you had. That, my friend, is identity theft. Not the kind that drains your bank account — the kind that drains you. Here’s […]
Redefining Words: Perfect
Today’s word that we’re redefining is one that we all use, and it’s a lie every time we use it. It’s the word perfect. The dictionary defines perfect as: Having all the desired or required elements, qualities, or characteristics. Absolute; complete. And of course, we just have to look at the definition of perfectionism too, if we’re going to dive into […]
The Gift of Fear: Why That Rickety Old Fence Deserves a Second Look
Most people treat fear like it’s the enemy — a monster to outsmart, outmuscle, or pretend doesn’t exist. But what if fear isn’t the wall that stops you, but the signal flare that shows you exactly where to go next? Years ago, in one of my workshops, I introduced what I call The Fear Fence — that invisible but oh-so-real […]
Routine vs Ritual: Knowing What Belongs on Autopilot (and What Doesn’t)
We all have habits that run our days — but not all habits deserve the same kind of attention. There’s a world of difference between what should live on autopilot and what should live in awareness. Some things — like scrubbing the toilet, unloading the dishwasher, or brushing your teeth — should absolutely be routine. They’re the silent […]
I Don’t Chase, I ATTRACT!
What belongs to me, will simply find me! This little mantra is something I noticed about a month ago on TikTok, and it’s all about expectation and how you show up in the world. It resonated with me in terms of energy. Chasing is exhausting, it’s frustrating, and it’s super low vibe too. But understanding […]