The Shroud of Silence: How Shame Took Root in My Story
When I was younger, I wore the smile of someone who had it all together. I was a high-functioning, good grades, always-fine kind of girl. My brother called me “golden girl” because everything I touched seemed to work out. But under that practiced smile was something else entirely: shame. Not the obvious kind, mind you. […]
Our Future Selves Need a Beautiful Vision
When we plan a vacation, we plan where we’re going. The place. And then do we wing it and hope for the best, or do we lay out a plan so we can get there? Think about it – We went to upstate New York over the holidays to spend time with Mark’s family. We […]
Goals Are Not Resolutions
Goals are not resolutions, BTW, and resolutions? Well, the studies show that by this Saturday, January 15th, most of those resolutions that were set on New Year’s Day will be done and over with – kaput! There’s a direct correlation between setting goals and achieving success, and the studies, of course, bear that out. And […]
Goals Make You More Attractive
Besides having clarity around your purpose in life, there are other unexpected benefits that come with writing down your goals. 1. Goals make you more attractive – hear me out! 🙂You become more focused (we talked about that earlier this week) and passionate. Why? Because passion is an indicator that your WHY is in place. […]
What You Focus on Grows: How One Quote Can Change Your Brain—and Your Life
There’s a quote I come back to again and again because of how profound it is. It’s from Robin Sharma, and it’s a doozy: “What you focus on grows, what you think about expands, and what you dwell upon determines your destiny.” Simple? Yes. But it’s also one of the most scientifically accurate things ever said about the […]
Goals: Avoid Setting ’em and Forgetting About ’em
“If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy, and inspires your hopes.” – Andrew Carnegie Long-term goals can be overwhelming, and BECAUSE they’re long-term goals, they’re easily forgotten. So, how do we avoid setting ’em and forgetting about ’em? 1. Create a shorter timeline. Break down your […]
The Influence of Emotional Intelligence
Scholarly research has been looking at the power of emotion for the last 20 or so years, and the results are fascinating. Emotions act as a driving or restraining force in determining a strategic outcome. A strategic outcome is a fancy term, really, for an end result. Positive and negative emotions can pose as drivers; […]
Gut Instincts
A gut instinct is worthy of discussion because of the gut/brain connection. The enteric nervous system (ENS) relies on the SAME types of neurons and neurotransmitters as the centralnervous system (brain and spinal cord). There are over 100 million neurons involved – in fact, if your small intestine were spread out, it would cover afootball […]
Fear Is a Habit—Not a Personality Trait
There’s a lie that’s been passed down to women for generations, especially as we age. It sounds like this: – “I’m just not brave enough.” – “I’ve never been a risk taker.” – “That’s just not who I am.” Let’s be clear: fear isn’t who you are. Fear is something you learned. And that means it can be unlearned. In fact, fear […]