Stop Focusing on Results. Focus on Your Habits.
“Your brain doesn’t wire itself around what you want — it wires itself around what you do. Neuroplasticity rewards repetition, not intention.” — Dr. Dominic Ng, Neuroscientist That quote stopped me cold the first time I read it. Because it explains so cleanly, clinically, and without any motivational fluff why so many smart, capable, deeply […]
Why Motivation Keeps Letting You Down (And What Actually Creates Momentum
Let me guess. You’ve set goals before. You’ve made plans. You’ve had very sincere moments where you thought, “This time is different.” And then… life happened. The energy faded. The clarity blurred. And whatever you were so excited about quietly slid to the bottom of the list — again. If you’re blaming yourself for that, […]
Willpower is Not The Answer to Stuck
There’s a particular kind of exhaustion that doesn’t come from doing nothing. It comes from doing everything and still feeling slightly off-course. This isn’t about being lazy, or unmotivated, or lacking goals. These are responsible women, thoughtful, and high-functioning. They’ve learned how to keep things moving even when they’re tired. But that’s exactly the problem. […]
To Raise Your Vibe, There Has To Be An Energetic Shift
To raise your vibe, there has to be an energetic shift, and even as I say this (or write it), it leaves you with a huge question, doesn’t it? It does for me! How? How on earth does one “shift”? Do you remember learning to drive a stick? The scariness of it all, the many […]
How to Stop Abandoning the Things You Swear You Want to Finish
How to Stop Abandoning the Things You Swear You Want to Finish(And Why You Keep Doing It Anyway)There’s a special kind of heartbreak in being a woman who starts beautifully. Oh, we can start anything: The course. The journal. The eating plan. The walking challenge. The decluttering project. The “this year will be different” promise […]
Self-Mastery
The road to becoming the best version of yourself can be summed up in two words: Self-Mastery. Self-mastery is self-control, according to the dictionary, period. Thank you for attending my TED Talk. 💁🏼♀️ But seriously. What the dictionary does not define is the skillset necessary for self-mastery and a better and fuller definition. Let’s talk […]
The Law of Compensation: How to Receive What You Truly Deserve
The Law of Compensation is one of the Universal Laws of the Universe, often linked to the Law of Cause and Effect, but with a crucial difference: it deals directly with the return you receive for the energy you put out into the world—whether that’s in the form of effort, kindness, skills, or even negative […]
Turning Mountains into Molehills – the proper perspective! (And yes, you read that right! 😄 )
Histrionic, overreactive, and hand-wringey – this is the opposite of what it means to turn mountains into molehills! To be histrionic is to be over the top emotionally – I’m talking about grand-scale crying, emoting, and yelling. It’s actually a personality disorder as well (but then so is a personality disorder called Personality Disorder Not […]
Mountains Into Molehills
If you are 65 and expect to live to 80, you have 15 years left. If you get granular, that is 780 weeks. Oliver Burkeman, author of 4000 Weeks: Time Management for Mortals, doesn’t pull punches on time. As we discussed last week, we all have an expiration date. We are handed a life sentence […]